CHILDREN BY CHOICE ASSOCIATION INCORPORATED

Your feelings

You may have some feelings about the pregnancy and the decision to have an abortion. Perhaps you feel:

• worried about the woman's well-being
• scared about how this decision will effect your relationship with her
• sad about the pregnancy ending
• confused by your feelings
• frustrated and helpless that you are unable to be more involved
• disappointed in yourself or the woman who is pregnant
• regretful that the pregnancy occurred
• angry - with the decision to have an abortion or, with the way the decision was made or, with the person (or people) who made the decision
• a loss of control over the situation.

All these feelings are understandable and you may need to talk about them with someone who can offer you some support. It may not be appropriate to expect support with these feelings from the woman who is having the abortion. When deciding who to talk to, remember to be respectful to the woman involved; she may not want other people to know about the pregnancy and so it may be best to consult a professional counsellor.