CHILDREN BY CHOICE ASSOCIATION INCORPORATED

When you cannot agree

If you decide that you cannot possibly be there for her if she chooses a particular option with the pregnancy, then you should inform her of this so that she can be aware of this when making her decision. For instance, if you think that you will not be offering her any emotional support if she chooses to continue the pregnancy and have a child, then she will need to know that if she decides to parent she will not be receiving this support from you. You also need to ask yourself whether you are avoiding any of your responsibilities by doing this. A partner is equally responsible for the conception and is therefore equally responsible for a resulting pregnancy.

In situations where you cannot agree, the most important thing is to maintain a respectful relationship. Just as she must respect your decision, so must you respect her decision to choose her option despite your feelings. An unplanned pregnancy may present an extremely difficult decision for a woman and she needs support and understanding for the decision that she reaches. The best decision will not be reached by forcing her to make a decision aimed only at pleasing you.