CHILDREN BY CHOICE ASSOCIATION INCORPORATED

Supporting Her Decision

Making a decision about an unplanned pregnancy can be extremely stressful for all involved in that decision. The shock of an unplanned pregnancy, or a pregnancy that has had medical complications, can greatly add to this stress. This may be placing an enormous strain on both of you and making it difficult for you both to act as understanding, considerate and supportive friends to one another. Be aware of this factor and try to acknowledge this with the woman involved.

Also remember that it is very important in supporting a woman with an unplanned pregnancy to recognise that this decision belongs to the pregnant woman herself. Every woman, regardless of her age or background, has the right to make decisions regarding her own body. Research also indicates that it is important for a woman to receive support for her decision from someone who is significantly close to her. So as a partner, parent, or friend you can play an enormous role in helping her to feel confident and comfortable with her decision.

Being there for her may make it easier for you both. You can give your advice and discuss your feelings about the pregnancy with her if she asks you to, but remember also that simply supporting her and listening to her is valuable. Rather than trying to convince her or push her into making the decision you want her to make, raise questions about all the options available with this pregnancy: abortion, adoption, and parenting.